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     I joined Aidpage a few days ago. I was directed to this site for encouragement and  to seek receive financial help.I have not received any financial help so far and thats ok because I do not want anyones help unless they are lead by God to do so. I have had many of you offer encouragement and prayers. Your support means more than you will ever know.   I have been offered advise and helpful sites to go to. Those of you whose heart are really in this site shines through.

     I would like to take this opportunity to once again make clear that I do nothing without the leadership of God. This is not my first time dealing with cancer. I lost my husband to a brain tumor 3 years ago. I did deal with Hospice then and I am now. Hospice is great and they do help prepare the family for the journey ahead. I know there are organizations that help with the medical cost, but it does become a little overwhelming dealing with the cost of daily living.  I did have to quit a job I loved doing, and I have sold everything of value in order to pay the household bills.

      I do want to make clear  that even though there are times I become discouraged and worried I am still a child of God. I know that Jesus has felt the same feelings I have had, and God Himself must of cried the day they crucified His Son. I know that God wants the best for us, and I also know He understands when we become weak. It is at those times He picks us up and carries us, even if it is through the help of other people.

      Like I said earlier I do appreciate the encouragement many of you have shown, and I am trying to visit this site a much as possible in hopes of being an encouragement to others. But I do request that if you cannot be an encouragement, then please, do not respond to my blog. You may not realize how hurtful your words could be to others.

     I feel we should be here to help build each other up, and not to tear each other down. I am sure we have all heard our mothers say " If you cannot say anything nice, then do not say anything at all". God Bless Yoyu All.

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      13. removed posted on Mar 6, 2011
       in response to Jake111...   Thank you for your response. It is a blessing to know that someone is still reading what my mom wrote, and she was a wonderful woman. I will be blessed if I can be a portion of what she was. And you are correct, she is a big part of who I am.
      Have a good afternoon my friend
      GOD BLESS
      Jake111
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      12. Jake111 posted on Mar 6, 2011
       in response to susie's son...   Your mother must have had a great impact on you and I am glad you shared her words with me. Even when they are no longer with us good people are still a big part of us and find a way to reach out ...by sharing her words with me that is exactly what happened. Thank you.
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      11. removed posted on Mar 6, 2011
       in response to Jake111...   Good morning,
      I cannot take credit for this post, it was wrote by my mom before she died, but I agree with it.
      Most of the people that come to the site are hurting and don't need to be kicked while they are already down. Any of us could be one check away from financial disaster, and one doctor appointment away from being told me have a terrible illness.
      We don't know what got a person to where they are, or to what extreme of pain they are feeling, all that should matter is that they are hurting and need support. I think we should all treat each other the way we want to be treated and life would be better.
      I base my life on the Bible and God's love, and I try to encourage whenever I can because that is what Jesus would do. He never treated the people with problems as outcast, in fact those on the ones He wanted to be with.
      People may be rude, but the majority of people on this site are very kind and will extend their hand in friendship and try to help any way they can.
      I feel sorry for those who believe that it is their mission in life to cause more pain to a painful situation because they are missing out on a lot. I would guess they have a lot of issues in their life that is hurting them and they don't know how to react except with cruelty. I try to ignore the mean comments and embrace the ones where kindness is extended. Those that live by judging others usually do not stick around here very long, so try not to let the words of ignorant people cause you to be discouraged.
      I am happy you joined the site and hope you will be around for a while and get to know us. I think your experience here will be good and you will make a lot of new friends on the site.
      Have a good day my friend.
      God Bless
      Jake111
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      10. Jake111 posted on Mar 6, 2011
      I really wish you the best and I will pray for you . I really wish more people would think before they speak there seems to be many people on this site that only reply when they can throw in their mean spirited opinions ... I don't think anyone came to this site for insults and condemnation and I feel sorry for those people because I try to think well of everyone unless they give me reasons not to ... I've never met these rude people and I can only imagine what people who know them personally must think and put up with. Imglad that I am not the only one who thinks that they should keep their comments to themselves .
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      9. removed posted on Apr 14, 2010
       in response to nini3...   You are truly blessed and I am honored to have you as my Christian sister and friend. I am believing for you to have  a good day.
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      8. removed posted on Apr 14, 2010
       in response to nini3...   

       I am sorry that you are not going to be able to go on the trip you were planning. I know how discouraging it is when we are looking forward to something and it doesn't happen. When things like this happen I try to believe that maybe God has changed our path for a good reason. It is sometimes hard to accept because I cannot see the whole with the eyes of God. I will be praying that the day you planned to go on the trip will still be filled with happiness and wonderful memories. I will also pray that God will bless you and your friends relationship so you can have time together, I too realize how important friendship can be and how being lonely can hurt. I am alone a lot since I became ill and can no longer work, and I try to keep my mind focused on the Lord. Satan will take every opportunity he can get to torment us, so I try my best to keep on the whole armor of God.

        I have been and will continue to pray for your healing. I do not know why some of Gods children suffer and why others don't, but I do know God believes we can handle what we must experience, or He would not allow us to go through it. All trials are difficult, it doesn't matter what they are, or who's going through them. Your problems and cares are just as important to the Lord as mine are. We just need to share each others burdens through prayer and let God take care of the rest.

        May the Lord's healing power touch you today. May His love smile upon you, and may He fill your heart with gladness. God loves you & so do I. Stay Blessed.

                       Susie6 

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      7. removed posted on Apr 14, 2010
       in response to nini3...   

       Thank you. Your post was very touching and means a great deal to me. I think God is healing me every time He allows me to have another day. I do miss a lot of the life I knew before cancer, but I know life is full of changes and I need to try and look for the good in every situation. I am nothing without God, and I need Him for everything.

       I pray you have a pain free day, filled with happiness, and surrounded by those you love.

             God Bless

                          Susie6 

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      6. removed posted on Apr 13, 2010
       in response to nini3...   

        Thank you, and I have been praying for you. Your words of encouragement is a blessing and I appreciate all my friends on this site. Things are hard right now but I know the hand of the Lord is upon me and He will not abandon me. I just wish I could get a little break from problems for a while. I miss the days when I was well, and could pay my bills. I miss being active in my community and my church, and I miss being me. I do believe that there is good in every situation if we put God first, and I try to do that. 

        My prayers are that I remain positive in every situation, and the love of God shines through, and that I would not have to struggle over finances. I pray for a complete healing and I pray for the opportunity to help others.

        This breakin really set us back, but I have to believe God will restore what we lost as long as I maintain a forgiving attitude about it.

        God bless you and fulfill your life with happiness and good health. 

                                                  Susie6 

         

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      5. removed posted on Apr 13, 2010
       in response to nini3...   

       Thank you and I will be praying for you. Prayer is the only thing I can offer too, but I have learned it is the most vital thing we can do in any situation, and it is the biggest blessing we can share with someone.

        We are still trying to recover from the weekend ordeal.  I am having a hard time trying to sleep, and I really don't know how I can replace the items we need since the only cash we had left was stolen. All I know to do is place the situation is God's hands and have faith everything will be alright. I feel like every time I take a step forward something happens.But today is a new day and I am praying for God to turn things around and help me to stay positive.

        God has never let me down and even though things seem impossible to overcome I know He is there. I cannot let this destroy my spirit or my faith. Being a child of God is not based on what happens in our lives, its how we respond to what happens, and I decided a long time ago i would serve the Lord.

        I hope you have a blessed day my friend, and I will remember you when I talk to God.

                               Susie6 

       

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      4. Starshine posted on Apr 9, 2010
       in response to susie6...   You are more than welcome Susan - Love you .
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       in response to Starshine...   thanks Patti
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      2. Starshine posted on Apr 9, 2010
       in response to susie6...   

      Hi susie6

      I am glad to hear you are stronger and able to visit this site. I pray you continue to feel better! Sorry you were told something hurtful. We all need to be kinder to each other. 

      Take care and you are in my thoughts and prayers. Tell your son hello too.

      Hugs

      Starshine

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      1. removed posted on Apr 9, 2010
       in response to nini3...   

       Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. I am usually pretty tough, but there was a time after I first joined the site that a was told something that was very unfounded and hurtful.

       I had just been told that my cancer is incurable, and I was battling depression and self-pity. I needed someone to show compassion and offer words on encouragement. Instead I felt like I was being told to suck it up and deal with it. It did hurt & I considered not returning to this site. But, thank God I came back and I have met some wonderful people. By the grace of God I am stronger and I look forward to visiting this site every day. I look for others that I may be able to help, and I guard my words very carefully. I hope I have never caused any hurt feelings to anyone reading my post, and if I have I am truly sorry.

        I really believe that those of us who visit this site daily are here to help others, and find encouragement ourselves when we need it.  This site offers us the opportunity to be a blessing to others and I am very thankful for everyone here who has became a part of my life.

       Since I became ill my priorities have changed. I desire a closer walk with the Lord and ,of course I do not want to die but, I do look forward to being in Heaven. I never want to close my eyes with the thought that I have wronged anyone, and I walk to take time to be thankful for all the blessings God bestows to me.

        My faith in God will see me through everything, and He supplies everything I need. I love the Lord with all my heart and I trust His will for my life.

        Thank you for being a part of the Aidpage family, and thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with me.  May God continue to bless you and continue to use you as a blessing to others on this site.

         

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